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Have You Stopped Chiseling?

Posted on 28 March 2008

carvingsOn 30th Street in Boulder, CO there is a sculpture of a man chiseling himself out of a block of stone.

The man’s head, torso, arms, and thighs have already been carved from the stone. His right hand holds a hammer above his head ready to strike a chisel he grasps in his left hand. He is forming his right knee.

The message for me is one of individuality, self-actualization and self-determination. I feel the sculpture evokes these questions:

  • Am I a self-made person? Am I self-directed? Am I as autonomous as I can or want to be? Am I self-responsible and can I self-manage?
  • Am I moving forward in my life? Am I a continuous learner?
  • How am I creating my life? What does it mean to be me?

This sculpture represents both the present state and potential of a self-made, self-actualized person; and points to the complexity of emotion, struggles and triumphs of life.

What are you chiseling from the stone?

Each of us has a choice as to how we use our innate talents to be productive and creative in our lives; and whether and how we will move through the challenges, road blocks, bumps in the road and other obstacles that might stand in the way of our personal and professional growth, development, and evolution. That is how we chisel our sculpture.

For some of us, the block of stone represents “stuckness:” immovability, being motionless, fixedness, the status quo, and being dead in the water, a destination. For others, the block of stone represents potential: possibility, creativity, self-actualization, capacity and becoming, a journey.

As a life, business and relationship coach, my work focuses on making positive, conscious choices to move forward mentally, physically, emotionally and spiritually in our varied life areas career, livelihood, personal environment and organization, health and wellness, abundance and finance, play and recreation, intimacy and partnership, friends and family, and spiritual and personal growth .

What does your sculpture say about you?

As you gaze upon and reflect on your sculpture, you might consider the following questions:
Does my sculpture reflect conscious life choices personal, professional, relational, spiritual, etc. that have resulted in furthering my growth and self-actualization, and supported me to grow in a positive way, or choices that keep me lifeless, static and in a no-growth state?

  • Does my sculpture reflect an honest, sincere and self-responsible effort to take care of my mind, my body, and my heart?
  • Does my sculpture reflect conscious efforts to be a more effective and supportive leader, manager, supervisor, co-worker, partner, spouse and friend?
  • Does my sculpture manifest positive qualities that reflect, for example, my core values, integrity and authenticity, being a better listener, being empathic and compassionate, being more patient, being more accepting and understanding, being more focused, being a better delegator, being more humorous, being more proactive, or being more financially responsible?
  • Does my sculpture reflect self-responsibility and accountability vis-a-vis my living space and working environment?
  • Does my sculpture reflect my conscious efforts to improve the quality of others lives?

Are you creating something . . . or making excuses?

Some people spend the first half of their lives saying how they intend to chisel their sculpture — and the second half of their lives explaining why they couldn’t do it. How about you? Are you investing your time and energy chiseling? Or spending your time and energy explaining why not?

Wherever you are with your sculpture, it will become your legacy. Folks will judge you by what they see. How are you choosing to sculpt your block of stone, your “you’?

I would offer that you take some time today, tonight, this week, or weekend and reflect upon your sculpture as it exists right now. How are you creating your self, developing your self, and actualizing your self at work (at home and at play)? Is your sculpture the same sculpture today as it was last week, last month, last year, three years ago, five years ago, ten years ago, twenty years ago? Have you stopped chiseling?

So, our $10 food for thought questions are:

  • What one simple baby step can I take this week to chisel one small piece of my stone that will result in a healthier, more self-responsible, more honest, more sincere, more positive and more creative life at work, at home and at play?
  • Am I a continuous learner, a lifelong learner, a “work in progress”?
  • Has my chisel dulled? What can I do to re-sharpen it? Do I have the strength to lift my hammer?
  • Looking from afar, how would I describe my sculpture? How would others describe my sculpture?
  • Do I like my sculpture?
  • Have I stopped chiseling?

[Editor's note: In British slang, "chiseling" means cheating or weaseling out of something. It's interesting to apply this meaning to the word as well. Maybe you need to think about whether you should stop cheating yourself of who and what you truly can be.]

photo © Marcus Derencius for openphoto.net CC:Attribution

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This post was written by:

Peter Vajda - who has written 39 posts on Slow Leadership.

Peter Vajda, Ph.D, C.P.C. is a founding partner of SpiritHeart, an Atlanta-based company that supports conscious living through coaching and counseling. With a practice based on the dynamic intersection of mind, body, emotion and spirit, Peter’s 'whole person' coaching approach supports deep and sustainable change and transformation. Peter facilitates and guides leaders and managers, individuals in their personal and work life, partners and couples, groups and teams to move to new levels of self-awareness, enhancing their ability to show up authentically and with a heightened sense of well be-ing, inner harmony and interpersonal effectiveness as they live their lives at work, at home, at play and in relationship. Peter is a professional speaker and published author. For more information: www.spiritheart.net , or pvajda@spiritheart.net , or phone 770.804.9125.

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1 Comments For This Post

  1. Steve Roesler says:

    Hello, Peter,

    As I thought about the chiseling and creating process, it occurred to me that in this process we are “self” artists whose work is on constant display.

    Like all art, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So it becomes dicey for us to want to automatically re-chisel should part of our “audience” choose not to embrace the “product.” At the same time, we can have our trusted patrons whose knowledgeable comments may give us pause and prompt us to chisel some of the rough edges that were previously unseen.

    I like the example and all of the places it leads. . .

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